What is a normal engagements procedure (In the kind of family that I come from)
The boys mother calls the girls mother and asks if the girl is available for marriage.
The mother answers yes or no.
If no the boys mother tries someone else.
If yes, the mothers 'talk' on the phone, exchange information (if they didnt know each other at all)
then boy comes visits girls home so that girl meets boy. (if they didnt know each other)
If they knew each other then they act infront of parents of girl that they dont. (;P)
Boy sits with the girl and her family.
Boy leaves, and girl either tells her family if she accepts or not.
If she does or doesn't accept, both cases girls mother has to call boys mother and tell her of the news.
If she does accept then a private engagement is settled between the family.
Boy and girl exchange numbers (If they dont already have it).
Boy visits girls home (with family members insight) regualarly as to get to 'know the girl better'.
When Boy and Girl feel ready to announce their engagement, the boys family (MEN ONLY) come visit the girls home to officially ask for the Girls hand.
Then the Women of the Boys family come to Girls home and ask for her hand (On a another day).
Boy is allowed to come visit girl after the Khe6ba, and sit with his Fiancee.
If boy is a romantic he would give his Fiancee an engagement ring, which she places on her right hand.
TEXT messages of the engagement would be sent all over Kuwait. And Everybody would congratulate Boy & Girl.
BEL EMBARAK TO ALL NEWLY WEDS ! ;D
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I didn't know it was that much of a complicated procedure. Kind of weird a little bit or maybe I'm gamophobic. But that was one interesting coarse of action.
Bel3aks its simplicity, that was the whole point of my post! Now u ruined the whole point :P Lazim aghayra ! ;/
I think it's simpler when you go: Hey there, marry me! :P with a ring and a stupid smile. Plus, when reading this I like to get into details. Boy goes to girl what does he say? How does he imprints an impression good enough in so little time to make a girl accept spending the rest of her life with him. I mean certainly homeboy won't be sitting there and just watching, that'd be creepy don't you think?
Maybe I'm just being critical.
hehehe saaJaaa:P w 7adaa true 3an "act like they dont know" ya3ne laih mita hal afLam ;p ?
3adat o taqaleeed ya mara :P
I like elzawaj that way.. it's " a'9man "
coolfreak: You know when u usually get a first impression about a person, either terta7la wayed aw etkesh menna. This is how it is when Boy goes to Girls house. Either terta7la oo etgol ok emwafqa, then yabdoon ekalmoon ba3ath, and get to know each other more. And girl has the rest of 'fatrat el khe6ooba' to decide whether or not she wishes to spend the rest of her life with him.
um-mit3ib: ee Ba3ad tadreen lazim yestashrefoon jedam el ahal :P
zizotime: Hehehe ee bs is everywhere else in Kuwait Like this? wela ako small changes?
yg: You mean khe6bat el ahal? Mo shar666 ! .. Bs anyway kelmin lah rayya el kha9, and I respect urs ;)
I didn't mean "a'9man" in that way.. although it is true..
what I meant with "a'9man" is that a marriage that way is bound to last.. although the person may have never came in contact with his future wife.. but look at marriages like this.. how many divorces do you see?.. and look at the west where the couple know each other before they get married.. what is marriage after all?, isn't it a way to spend the rest of your life with someone, 'to get to know him'?.. why should I get married with a girl that I already know and lived with without marriage..
My view maybe wrong.. but it's just the way I look at it..
LOL well said ;p and then.. boys mom gives poor girl a hard time.. poor girl gives even poorer boy hard time be3ad.. then boy goes to boys mom and asks shesalfa.. then gil goes to girls mom and tells her the salfa..
and the cycle goes on again ;p
and 3ashat lina likwuait likuwaaait !:P
LOL ok YG I respect that. Bas alot of my friends got married with them knowing the guy before, and they are as happy as can be. And my cosin also got married wet3arfa men gabel zalyoon sina, o she is still very much inlove with him after 3 kids.
Mo kel el zawajaat naj7a ok I agree. Bs that doesnt depend on if they know their spouse before or not. It depends on the chemistry of the two people getting married. It depends on if they get along or not. If there is understanding. If their is compromise.
Oo when you get married it means companionship, friendship, helping each other, building a family, growing old together. I would much rather do that with a person in whom I knew BEFORE than with a stranger that I just got to know when I got engaged to him.
Sa3at eb khe6bat el ahal everything goes wrong because u think that u KNOW a person, but infact its just a mask put on to impress you for the short period of the engagement. I know a girl eb khe6bat ahal now, oo kha6eebha men akbar shabab ely yeshreboon khamer in Kuwait. But she doesnt know that. WHY? cuz tawha badya eta3araf 3alaih o bas 7a6laha wayh 9ena3ey. HAM fee bent makh6oba eb khe6bat ahal, o kha6eebha khoosh wa7ed, bs hal bent eb 3elaqa ma3a wa7ed thaney o etkalma wet7eba o tabey tetzaweja bas ahala mo ratheen 3alaiha fa enkha6bat to another guy, kel hatha kha6eebha mayadri 3ana. Another girl got married through khe6bat el ahal, 6ala3 rayelha yakheth 7asheesh, wel bent al7een admenat weyah. Not ALL cases turn out like this. But I'm just showing you that hal shay mala sheghel eb khe6bat ahal or not.
"isn't it a way to spend the rest of your life with someone, 'to get to know him'?.. why should I get married with a girl that I already know and lived with without marriage.."
Get to know what exactly? Would u rather live with a person whom u know already or a complete stranger? When you go to study barra, you chose ur roomate to be someone you know, wela ay a7ad yala awnas enta3araf 3alaih. How can you "live" with someone without marriage? you cant. Lazim tetzawaj a7ad 3ashan you actually 'live' with them. Wetha kalamt'ha on the phone, its still not the same as 'living' with her. "living" means LIVING. Something you see, and touch, mo just hear and listen. Something that you use ur 5 senses with. You cant "live" with a voice. You have to see that person. Thats what I understand when I read "living with someone".
Ana mo ga3da athem khe6bat el ahal, bs it seems to me enek ga3ed et'them enek takh6eb a7ad et3arfa men gabel. Geltlek I respect ur point of view, o hathey wejhat natharey ana ;)
Omtantoo7: Oo 3ashat AHALHA :P
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